How To Reset And Achieve Your New Year’s Resolutions

I want you to ask yourself, think back what goals did you write for yourself? What did you want to accomplish for the New Year? Where are you at? Are you further ahead or do you wish you’d have done something different to get more results that you wanted? That’s what I want to ask you. Ask yourself these questions. Where are you in your goals and have you accomplished them or did you make excuses? Did you stop following through? Did you stop doing the things you needed to do to get what you wanted to get? Did you have a side focus or a distraction that you forgot the reasons why you made the goals in the first place? The whole reason for making goals is because you want to make sure that you follow through to get a different result and to feel different about what you want.

The only reason people set goals at the first of the year is because they want a new result. What was the new result that you were going for? Was it to be more financially successful, to be more confident, to take a few pounds off? That’s a big one. A lot of people say, “I want to lose little pounds. I want to get in better shape, to be a nonsmoker, to create better relationships or to have more energy.” What were some of the goals that you wrote down? I don’t want to know about all of them. I want you to say what are the goals that you have followed through on and what are some of the ones that maybe you let go by the wayside. If it’s talking about weight, maybe it’s the waist side that went down and you need to refocus on that. With all the information out there and all the opportunities, believe me, there are more information and opportunities for you to get the results that you want in all areas of life, especially when it comes to your health.

We’re in a great place right now, so you have no reasons. The only reason you haven’t gotten where you want to be in the last few months is that you stopped focusing on the reasons why you wanted something. You got busy and not productive because you thought about all the things you had to do to get the result that you want and you don’t like the way you felt. When you don’t like the way you feel, you either have to change the story so you don’t feel that way or take the action. What did you do? My guess is you may have changed the story a little bit. Why did you change the story? Because you focused on what you had to do.

Create A New Goal

I want you to think back January 1st, New Year’s Eve, or right around that first week when you sat down and you felt it in your body. Do you remember how you felt? You’re like, “This year, 2019, I want to do something different. I want to create a new goal. I want to have something in my life that’s going to increase my happiness. I’m going to move forward with my life in some way.” How did you feel when you sat down and you were writing them? It’s truly a goal or it’s truly something that you wanted. It wasn’t, “I’m going to write this down because everybody does it.” You truly felt that. I’m talking about real something, a real goal, something that you want an incentive. How did you feel?

The reason why you felt a certain way is because you created the reasons why you wanted to do it. The reason matched up with the feeling and it gave you the motivation. When you get the motivation, that’s what inspires you. The problem is we get caught up as we start allowing other people and other distractions to influence us. How did you feel when you wrote it down? Why did you write it down? What were the reasons you wrote that specific goal down that you wanted to accomplish in the year 2019? If you can think back, what were you doing? Were you standing up? Were you writing down? Were you excited? Were you breathing? Were you excited and you’re putting oxygen into your body? Were you moving your body a certain way?

What are the things that you started to do to accomplish that goal? What are the actions that you took to start moving forward? Did you take some actions other than just a thought? At least you wrote it down. If you wrote it down, then my guess is you might have even taken some actions maybe for a week or two. What were some of the actions? When you took the actions, were those actions based on you’re excited to do it or were you regretting the fact that, “I’ve got to take these actions now?” If you focus on the actions that you’re taking and you’re regretting the fact that you’re taking the actions, your subconscious mind is going to go, “We’ve got to do all this work to achieve this goal. Why did we put this goal in the first place?”

Your mind says, “Do we really want it? Is this something that we wanted? I don’t know.” You start questioning your actions because you’re not feeling the way you wanted to feel when you started taking the actions. You focused on the result when you wanted it, granted. You got that right. “Why did I create a goal? I created this goal because I want a result, because I want to feel different and if I feel different, I’ll get ahead in life. I will make sure that I will condition myself to get ahead.” What happened? You started down that goal. You wrote it down, you were excited. Remember the way you felt and you gave some actions on it. You knew why you wanted to go. You had the reasons why, but something interrupted that pattern.

Why You’re Not Following Through

The reason why you didn’t follow through if indeed you didn’t follow through is that you’re focused on what you were doing and maybe you did too much work. You put too much on your plate. For example, you wanted to lose weight. What did you do on January 1st? “I got a couple of pounds I wanted to take off. Do you know what I’m going to do? I’m going to commit myself and I’m going to feel the way I want to feel. I’m going to get down to the size I wanted to get down. I’m going to have the energy.” You are excited about this. It’s a true goal and it happens for a lot of people out there. This pattern is going to be the same pattern that you run whether it’s losing weight, being financially successful, creating a healthy relationship, getting your body in a position where it’s physically fit, better, whatever that is for you. It’s the same pattern. I’m using losing weight because that’s the number one goal people set when they have a new goal for the New Year.

New Years Resolution: Losing weight is the number one goal people set when they have a new goal for the New Year.

The second goal is they want to make more money financially and this is the same pattern, whether it’s losing weight or making more money. What happened in that first week or two? What did you do? You wrote down your goal. You felt exactly how you’re going to feel when you imagine you have it. You felt good like, “This is how I’m going to feel when I get there.” You felt the feeling of what it’s going to feel like in the future and you felt it on the time you’re writing your goal down. It was a real goal for you and then you started down the path. What do I have to do to get there? “I’ve got to change my eating behaviors. Maybe I’ve got to move a little more. I’ve got to start doing things that I have not done in the past to get that result that I want,” and that’s great. You’ve got to do that. You have a plan. You plan this out.

It’s the same thing in your business. You want to make more money, what did you do? You got excited. What’s your lifestyle going to be like when you make more money? It’s going to be stress-free. When you lose weight, you’re going to be stress-free. You can have more energy. When you make more money, you have more energy. Can you see how the patterns are the same? These are the top two goals people write down on New Year’s Eve. What happens is then you start thinking about what you’ve got to do. It’s still exciting to you. You’re still pumped up. Remember the way you spoke and the language you had, “I get to do all these things to get my goals,” then in a week or so after you get to do all those things, then you need to do all these things and then you have to do all these things.

Before you know it, the way you move your body, the way you woke up in the morning and the way you breathe, you start to slowly procrastinate. I used to wake up in the morning and if I wanted to lose weight, I got excited. I moved my body right away or I made a phone call. If I want to make more money, I made these phone calls and I started connecting. I wrote down to people I wanted to talk to the next day, “Who was I going to communicate with?” In a week or two or three weeks or a month later, what did you do? You still have that list, but what did you do? “I’ve got to have breakfast first. I’ve got to have my coffee.” You allow your mind to throw in certain patterns from the past that got you the results that you had before January 1st. You’re going to get a result, but what is the pattern that you’re running? What happens is before you know it, “It’s just a cup of coffee.” What do you do? You buy into that story. You buy into that excuse and then what happens is you slowly pick up another excuse because it was so easy.

It didn’t feel like you had to work. It felt like you had your time to yourself. “I’ve got a little time to myself. I get to enjoy this time. I get to think a little bit. I get to process this information of what I need to do so I can get my goal because I’m excited.” You’re still excited about it, but you’re less likely to take the actions that you used to take because your excitement is there, but your drive is different. You lost your drive a little bit because you’re working hard instead of enjoying the process. You’re focused on what you have to do instead of the result that you want. When you understand how your patterns and your brain works, then you can interrupt that pattern. You don’t allow the story to come in that says, “Let me just have my coffee first.”

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Be Self-Aware

Remember what you did in the first few days. What did you do? Did you wake up after brushing your teeth and taking care of your personal needs? Did you go down and start making your list right away and start taking some action? Did you check your computer? Did you do those things first or did you have breakfast and meet up with people and get busy? You’ve got to ask yourself and be real with yourself. Remember the difference is self-awareness. You’re aware that you want to go, but self-observation is when did your brain, when did your subconscious mind step in and go, “Excuse me. I just want to let you know that I’m not liking the way I’m feeling right now. I thought these results were going to come a little quicker when I wrote these goals down. I want to let you know that I was excited and I’m losing that desire. I’m going to put a little distraction in there for you. We need to feed our body, that’s what we need to do. We need to give ourselves a little more time to process?”

That’s what your brain does. Your subconscious mind, your brain starts talking to your conscious mind. Hang on. Who’s running the show here? When you wrote down those goals, who wrote down those goals? You wrote them down, but it was your conscious mind that said you wanted those goals. It was your conscious mind that got to see the imagination of what it’s going to feel like. It’s your conscious mind that allowed those imaginations to bring in the feeling so you wrote down the goals. You truly felt the future in the present moment and all you felt was the success and the reasons why you wanted it.

What happens is after you do that, now you’re walking into the office. Which office? The office is your subconscious mind. “Now we’ve got some rules to go over here. We’re going to go down this path long enough, but as soon as I feel like I’ve got to work, I’m going to knock on the President’s door or the conscious mind. Mr. President, Mr. CEO, we’ve got to have a meeting. I’ve been working a little harder than I thought I was supposed to work and I’m not getting the results as fast as I want them. I wanted to lose about 20 or 30 pounds. I figured I’d be off by now. It’s been two weeks. What’s going on here? I’m feeling a little pain here and I’m not eating the way I want. I’m not enjoying this process. I want to back up a little bit. Can we go have a donut and talk about this?” Is that pretty much accurate? “It’s just one donut, it’s not going to hurt anything.” That subconscious mind knocks on the President’s door, the CEO called the imagination. Your conscious mind says, “Did you not see where we are going to be more financially successful and we’d have better relationships? How come we don’t have $1 million in our account? It’s been two weeks. Come on, what’s taking you so long?”

What happens is your subconscious mind says, “We need to take a break. Maybe you don’t have the right context. Maybe you don’t have the right information and the right knowledge. Maybe we need to back it up a little bit. Are you sure you can afford this? You better think about this. You’ve tried this before and it hasn’t worked before. What makes you think you can do it now, Mr. President?” That’s your subconscious mind talking to your conscious mind. What do you do? Your conscious mind goes, “You are the CEO and I’m wondering if you’re right. What do you think we should do? I don’t know. Maybe we should slow down a little bit and think about this for a second.” What do you do? Your conscious mind is influenced and affected by your subconscious because of the patterns and behaviors you had before, because you didn’t get the results before. What do you do? You buy into the same stories and the same patterns and you don’t interrupt the pattern. The reason why is because you focus on what you had to do and your subconscious mind stepped in there and knocked on that President’s door, then said, “Mr. President, are you sure you want this?” which was your conscious mind.

New Years Resolution: Don’t put too much on your plate that you get overwhelmed, your mind shuts down, and you give up.

How do you interrupt that pattern? Number one is whenever you’re setting a goal, you set a realistic goal. Your realistic goal is how can you accomplish this goal, enjoy the process and don’t put so much on your plate that you overwhelmed and your mind shuts down and you give up. If you shut down that subconscious mind and you don’t interrupt the pattern, the subconscious mind wins every time. You want to condition, number one, is your mind. You have to understand how it’s conditioned, but you also want to condition your body. Do you remember how you felt and how you moved when you wrote the goal down and how you breathe? How you raised your imagination to move forward and not to fit in with others limit and their limitations? If you’re trying to fit in with others, you’ll never rise. You’ll always low your expectations and your standards because you can connect with people that don’t have to raise their standards a lot easier.

Interrupt The Pattern

If you’re hanging around people that lower their standards so they don’t have to do what it takes to get to the next level, they’re focused on the work that they have to do and then you fit in there because you don’t want to be the oddball. What can you do differently? How do you interrupt that pattern? Number one is I always tell you about the 10% rule. It’s something that I’m very adamant about because you have to understand, in order to trick your subconscious mind, you have to deal the right cards to it. If you’re not dealing the right cards and you go, “I’ve got to do all this stuff.” You may be excited at first and you believe you can do it and you can do it. I’m not telling you can’t do it. I’m just telling that if you don’t know how your mind works, then you’re going to fall prey to be whatever your mind delivers, whatever your past experiences are and your patterns. If you haven’t conditioned your mind yet, you’ve got to learn to condition it.

If you’re working out and you’ve conditioned your body to be a bodybuilder, it already knows the steps that it takes. There’s no difference in any other goal that you’re setting. When you wrote down your goals, how did you breathe, how did you move and all that? What happened is because you got so excited and you believe that you could do it, which you can, then what you did was put too much on your plate. You tried to do too much at first, instead of realizing that if you slowly step into it and condition your mind to say, “This feels good. I’m getting the results that I want.” What’s going to happen is you’re going to fall short and then you’re going to give up and find an excuse. You’re going to be in August or whatever month it is, you’re going to totally give up the things that you wanted to do. You’re going to say, “On New Year’s Eve in 2020, I’m going to set some new goals and this time I’m going for it.” You don’t get time to waste. You’ve got a few months left. How are you going to play this game? Are you going to take some different actions now?

Here’s why I say the 10% rule. Could do something 10% more. In other words, you want to lose weight. Take it for an example. Can you cut back 10% on the food you’re eating? You’re cutting back 10% or put 10% less on your plate. Can you move 10% more? Each time every week, move a little bit 10% more. Get it predominant, do that. Can you eat healthier 10%? Can you cut back on junk foods 10%? What you’re doing is conditioning your body and your mind to take one pound maybe every two weeks off or two pounds every week or two off. When you do that, it’s not a diet. You don’t have to worry about losing weight. You have conditioned your mind to get a healthier body and that feels a lot better than having to lose something.

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When you lose it, nobody wants to lose something. You want to find it. The same thing with money. Can you increase your income by 10% over the next 90 days? Can you do that? How do you do that? Give me five things that you can do to increase it by 10%. Can you cut down on some expenses? Can you do 10% more marketing? Can you find 10% more relationships out there that are going to help you get to your goals? Can you surround yourself with 10% more people that are more successful than you? Can you do research 10%? There are many ways of doing that. If you could do an increase by 10%, it’s going to start that domino effect and the compounding. The compounding is what’s going to get you to where you start to become very wealthy.

Can you save 10% more money? If you don’t pay yourself first, why should anybody else pay if you don’t want to pay yourself first? If you don’t believe you deserve a paycheck, why should anybody else? What about addictions? How do you handle addictions? Can you cut down on 10%? Can you do that? Can you take it not one month at a time, not one week at a time, not one day at a time, but can you take it for one hour at a time? Can you take it for one minute at a time? Can you reward yourself for being successful in that? Can you move your body in ways that get you to be energetic and breathe right and be grateful and surround yourself? When you can do that, you’re reconditioning your mind for a new pattern, a new behavior. That’s what this is about.

If you’ve given up on your goals, you’ve got to ask yourself. It’s not that you gave up on your goals, you just fell prey to old patterns. How you interrupt that old pattern is very simple. You’ve got to realize that in order to do that, don’t put so much on your plate. Don’t try to be a superhero overnight. I know a lot of wealthy people and the one thing that they do is understand how to condition themselves. They don’t try to fit in with everybody else. They condition themselves to be successful. That doesn’t mean they don’t have challenges and times that they struggle or stress, but they don’t live there. They handle it differently.

Set Up Your Subconscious Mind To Succeed

One of my dearest friends, this guy knows how to make money. Do all deals work out? No, but it doesn’t matter because he doesn’t stop. I believe he’ll be a billionaire before long. Does that mean he doesn’t go through challenges? He’s a human being, but the businesses and how he runs and how he thinks is different than everybody else. The actions he takes are different. Did he start off there? No, he was not handed anything. He created everything himself. I’ve known him since the ‘80s. He’s a very good friend of mine and he’s an inspiration to me. That’s the kind of people I hang out with. Those are the men and women that I want to coach with. Surround yourself with those people. Don’t lower your expectation to fit in with others. Here’s what I want you to do. I want you to get your mindset. When I say get your mindset, I’m not talking about your conscious mind. I believe your conscious mind is always there. I’m talking about your subconscious mind. When you can set up your subconscious mind to succeed, at that point, you’re powerful. You’re unstoppable, but you’ve got to know how this thing works.

New Years Resolution: Don’t waddle in your stress. It’s an opportunity to do something different.

I want you to rewrite your goals now. When you rewrite your goals, I want you to truly feel them. Put the energy, breath, sit up straight. The way you think, imagine that it’s already happening for you. I also want you to say, “By me accomplishing and getting 10% ahead in 30 days or 45 days.” That’s what I want you to do. I want you to take in a 30 to 45-day period and increase it by 10%. What you’re going to do is condition your mind, because in the next 30 to 45 days after that, you’re not going to do 10%. By default, you’ll do more, but don’t try to do more. Go for 10% and watch what happens to your brain. At that point, it kicks in and you get to become a super achiever. You’re conditioning your mind and body. You’re breathing differently. You’re learning how to handle stress because it’s not stress. It’s an opportunity on how to do something different. You don’t waddle in your stress, you deal with it differently. You figured out a way to make it work.

A very good friend, Mike, I was talking about him. He gets stressed out, but what did he do? Does he give up? No. He finds a way to make it work and that’s what’s so powerful. That’s what you’re going to do. You are going to condition your body and mind to set yourself up for success in all areas of your life. Rewrite your goals and rewrite why you want them. What are you willing to do and what are you capable of doing because you’re willing to do more and you’re capable of doing a lot more? I want you to say, “This is what I’m willing to do now.” I’m going to do at least 10% and stick with that. Do you want to lose weight? Try to lose three pounds, four pounds over the next month. Depending on your size, maybe you can lose five or ten, but condition yourself for that. What if you only lost two pounds a month?

What’s that over a year, 24 pounds? If you’re a bigger size, maybe you can lose two pounds a week until you condition your body, but you’ve got to condition your mind first. Write down your goals. Put yourself in that peak state. Write down who you can communicate with some new relationships and some new actions that you either took that worked and some new actions that you haven’t taken that you know will work. Let’s get your mind and body to where it needs to be. Once you can do that, at that point, you’ll start seeing the results that you wanted to have back in January. Isn’t that cool? That’s what I love about this. It is very cool. What are you going to do? You’re going to condition yourself 10%. When you condition yourself 10%, at that point, you’ll start moving forward.

I want to keep in touch with you and I want you to keep in touch with me. I want to make sure that you check out GetYourMindSetWithMark.com. Go there, listen to my other podcast, subscribe to be notified when there’s a new podcast. Make sure you get my free book and I also want to make sure that you email me. Let me put you on the hot seat. Do you want to be successful? Let me work with you. Let’s do this. Let’s set up a podcast where it’s you and I. You let me know your challenges. We deal with it and we fix it on the spot. That’s my challenge for you. It’s my challenge and it’s also my gift. Here we go, new goals, not waiting until New Year’s Eve and you’re going to get your mind set and conditioned properly. Take care. Until then, I’ll see you in the next episode.